Kelvin, a paraplegic, from Singapore met his wife after his accident during his rehabilitation while she was interning as an occupational therapist.
“It is not something we purposely seek, but it was just a friendship and then it just developed naturally,” he says. He is now happily married and raising a family, and isn’t ashamed of his disability.
“There are people who can walk and run physically, very abled, but still…they can’t find a life partner, so it’s really your attitude towards life. The way you behave. The way you carry yourself. Your attitude towards life must be positive.”
Marrying someone who is able-bodied might cause some worry and uncertainty for a family who is concerned about someone with a disability being able to take care of their son or daughter. Kelvin understands their apprehension “They don’t spend time with you. They don’t know who you are. They don’t know what you can do,” Kelvin shares. He understands why they would be worried about him taking care of their daughter.
“Over the last 20 years, I think I’ve proved a point. I’ve proved that I’m capable of setting up a family. I’m capable of earning a good living. I’m capable of taking care of my son. Marriage and partnership is a long journey."
It is not easy but it’s exactly the journey he wants to be on.
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