Accepting My Daughter's Quadriplegia

9.22.2015
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Cindy fell asleep at the wheel, causing her car to flip. Her family was lucky to be alive and were mostly uninjured except for her daughter, Beth, who broke her neck at C6-7. 

“The first days in intensive care we had no idea what was going on at all. It just seemed like there was more and more and more bad news.”

Dealing with guilt and trauma

Overwhelmed with everything spinal cord injury, Cindy also had to deal with her guilt for having caused the accident. “We were very, very lucky that Beth was able to accept her injury and she was able to look at it through a lens of challenge,” Cindy shared.

“She accepted that she couldn’t change what happened so she was just looking to make the most of what she had.” 

Although she admits she struggled to accept her daughter’s quadriplegia. After talking to other families who have dealt with spinal cord injuries, Cindy has found that there’s usually someone who takes the lead, someone who “somehow knows that things are going to be ok.” Cindy admits that it wasn’t her. “It really felt like nothing was ever going to be right again.” Over time, the lives of Cindy and her family got easier. They found support in the disability community and learning from other people’s stories.

“It was impossible for me to see at the beginning that there was any ray of sunshine in the future. My daughter eventually converted me and the rest of our family to her belief that everything is ok.”

All of their lives changed so much, and now years after Beth’s paralysis, they can see that they have gained through the course of the injury. “There is so much possibility,” Cindy shares hopefully.

Share Cindy’s story with a parent dealing with their child’s recent spinal cord injury, so they won’t feel so alone.

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