Whether you were born with a disability or acquired one later in life should never impact your lifelong dream of being a mother (unless of course, you never wanted kids, in which case you still have that freedom). Not everyone is able to have a baby “the old fashioned way,” which may or may not be an affect of a disability, but it’s not the only option to become a mom. With access to healthcare, better disability awareness and access to information and social media, more and more women on wheels are entering motherhood in a variety of ways.
Information on pregnancy
Getting pregnant can come with complications for any mom, but for women with mobility limitations such as paralysis, there are a few extra things to consider:
- low blood pressure
- urinary tract or kidney infections
- pressure sores from the inevitable added weight
- autonomic dysreflexia
Also, aside from the medical aspects, added baby weight will most likely impact your how you manage your daily routine or even impact your degree of independence during the pregnancy. It might be useful to have a few extra hands on deck, especially in that last trimester. Pregnant women on wheels may have to watch out for a few extra things compared to their walking counterparts, but by being informed and working with a doctor who can be understanding of your situation, there’s lots of hope.
Surrogacy and Infertility treatments
For moms who are unable to get pregnant or give birth, there is still a road to motherhood. There are some challenges to consider in these alternatives:
- high expense and legal issues of surrogacy
- expense of fertility treatments
- cost and complexity of domestic adoption
- marital status (and if the status is impacted by your insurance status)
- discrimination in international adoption
PushLiving cites resources that break down the differences between traditional and gestational surrogacy, although the prices range around $70,000-$90,000. If you are considering this option in the US, be sure to check your state laws as there are a few where the surrogacy contract is not enforceable or is otherwise illegal. Infertility treatments are another viable option, running a price tag of up to at least $12,000, which is at this point mostly (if not completely) NOT covered by insurance.
There are a lot of options to consider, so be sure to keep you eyes open and talk to your doctor about the options that work best for you. If you dream to be a mother, there are ways to make it happen.
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