“She decided that she wanted a baby and didn’t need a man or an able body to get one,” PushLiving shares about Jen Goodwin. Choosing to be a single mom can be tough, but Jen “has a network, support, pure determination, and a well-researched plan to become a Mother at 32.” Oh, and I guess we should mention she’s a quadriplegic.
Making the necessary adaptations
Thanks to a sperm donor and in vitro fertilization, Jen became pregnant. Knowing full well that being a single mom AND a quadriplegic mom would require its own adaptions, Jen researched everything from the cabinets to the changing table to the car seat to the cradle to ensure that she could do everything she needed to do. She even practiced daily tasks ahead with a doll to test out her methods and has a number of custom modifications on her house for the new nursery.
Her mom is an OB nurse who has supported Jen through her pregnancy, even helping with daily tasks as Jen was impacted by the added baby weight. Her doctors in Little Rock, Arkansas had extremely limited experience with spinal cord injury, so it took some effort to get them in touch with specialists to guide the way, and the team had measures in place for any complication that might have arisen. Thankfully, none of that was necessary and Jen became the mother of baby Beckham born via a natural delivery in 2015.
Looking forward to being a mom
What was she looking forward to most? “Having that bond,” Jen shares. There are still obstacles she’ll have to figure out as she goes along, from how she’ll chase after him to how she’ll teach him how to ride a bike, but her motto has always been, “We’ll figure it out.”
“I do enjoy being able to show people that they can do more than they think that they can because I know that I can do more that I thought I could do in the beginning if I try,” the quadriplegic mom shares. “Honestly I had the people before me show that to me. I have 2 women in Arkansas that I know of that had babies and have been a huge support to me.” Knowing how much of an impact those women had on her, Jen is happy to pay it forward for other women who might have thought it wasn’t possible to be a quadriplegic mom.
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