“I get asked many strange wheelchair questions,” shares Priscilla, paraplegic and mom.
Dealing with the assumptions people make
Many assume that Priscilla’s husband is at home to help her, but that’s not the case. “He leaves for work around 8-9 and returns around 6-7pm. On a good day,” she shares. Once she shares that, the next assumption is that she has a nanny. “It’s funny how often I get asked this question,” she shares. The busy mother of three is responsible for the mom duties on her own (she even homeschooled them for a few years), including getting her baby in the car and changing diapers. She has a babysitter she uses just like anyone else for dates with her husband or appointments.
Being a mom on wheels
“How do you keep little fingers out of spokes?” Asked one reader. Priscilla’s never had an issue with it, but she sets boundaries. “I’ve always just been adamant and consistent.” Otherwise for discipline, Priscilla finds her wheels are much faster in the rare event she has to go after one of her sons.
“My oldest “Ran” from me in the mall ONCE. He didn’t want to go in the store I was going in and ran off. He quickly got “lost” in the crowd. I could still see him and knew he was ok but it scared him so badly that he’s never done ANYTHING like that again.”
Adapting practical solutions for living with paralysis
She also gets a lot of practical questions about how she gets her kids into the car, changes diapers, pushes a stroller, picks a baby up off the floor, etc. Priscilla has mastered each task and has found ways to make her life easier and has made videos of her methods.
One important skill is carrying her baby. She prefers slings, but has other tips. “I didn’t have a sling with my first and I strapped him against me with the seatbelt that was on my chair,” she explains. “When they were REALLY little a Boppy pillow in my lap was VERY helpful.” When it comes to cribs, “I just rolled up parallel to the crib and reached in,” Priscilla shares with one extra tip, “Don’t spend too much. It will get scratched.”
When asked what she tells her kids when people treat her differently, Priscilla shares “that would require people to actually treat me differently.” She doesn’t have any problems and accepts and declines help as anyone else would when it’s offered.
Moms are moms, Priscilla just does it all on wheels.
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