Why Independence Feels So Liberating

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Curated by
Denile Doyle
Content via In The News
In The News
Curated by
Denile Doyle

When twenty-five-year-old Spencer decided to move out of his parents’ house and live on his own, he knew it was time for a change. Spencer, who has Cerebral Palsy and needs help with his day-to-day routine, found a subsidized apartment through an agency that serves renters who need extra assistance.

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“These days, things that most people take for granted—like deciding when to go out, and being intimate in private—I get to take for granted too.”

Spencer is glad to exercise his newfound independence after moving; he enjoys cooking, meeting new people, and exploring his new neighborhood as much as he can. He also welcomes the privacy that living independently affords him, and the ability to more confidently develop relationships. According to Spencer, his new comfort level has changed his approach to meeting new people, “I realized I’d rather let things happen organically, now that I finally have a space to call my own.”

With lowered and accessible countertops, cooking is a breeze for the self-proclaimed foodie, who says, “... now that I can cook a classic bacon and eggs in the comfort of my own home. It’s something I can take pride in.”

Spencer says he’s more spontaneous now that he lives on his own, and he maintains a sociable routine, whether he’s out with friends, or discovering a new bar or restaurant. He refuses to let his limitations prevent him from enjoying his new freedom.

“If there’s something I want to do, I find a way.”

Moving out on his own and exercising his independence has given Spencer a sense of satisfaction, since, he says, “For the first time in my life, my worries and responsibilities are entirely my own.”

What changes, big or small, have helped you discover independence, and provided a sense of accomplishment in your life? Share your story with us, and we could feature you on AbleThrive!

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