Loving Yourself First

Curated by
Brittany Déjean
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Curated by
Brittany Déjean

“I never knew how much I was loved,” shares Kristin Duqette, a woman with a disability. “Society has a tendency to see me as a broken individual, but with love, I’ve learned to shatter those lenses and begin to see myself as a source of love.”

Accepting yourself as you are


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Kristin has been overwhelmed on her journey of understanding how much she is loved, appreciated and accepted by others for who she is, disability and all. “Sometimes I solely see my flaws, downfalls, fears, insecurities, and instead of accepting that aspect of myself, I continue to push these emotions further within,” she admits. “But if I know that I’m loved, and deeply loved, maybe I’ll know that I’m okay and enough, just as I am.”

Self-acceptance is fundamental to a person’s well-being, and is a critical component to any healthy relationship. Kristin has learned this over time, and has found that loving herself has it’s own benefits to her health and well-being.

“If I reminded myself everyday how much I’m loved and looked up to, maybe I wouldn’t be so hard on myself. Maybe I wouldn’t live from a place of perfectionism and constant insecurity. Maybe I’d finally realize that there’s nothing inherently wrong with me, but that simply I’m deeply loved. Period.”

“The love I give to myself is coming from my core being- a place of deep peace and serenity,” she explains. “But more importantly, that I am capable of love and being loved.” These realizations have opened Kirstin up to explore how she looks at herself, the world, and her place in it.

Embracing vulnerability for better relationships

Sometimes what makes us feel the most safe keeps us from experiencing many of these elements of life and love. Kirstin’s journey with embracing openness and vulnerability raises important questions about how we treat each other as human beings. “If we all acted from our vulnerable points, maybe our world would be more humane,” she explains. “And maybe that vulnerability comes from a deep source of love- a deep love that radiates within every human being.”

No stranger to challenges and setbacks, Kirstin considers the values of approaching life from a position of love. “Maybe my hardships would seem more manageable. Maybe I’d be able to see people- and myself- for our humanness, instead of annoyances, mistakes and past disappointments,” she writes. Throughout her life, Kristin has relied on the love within and around her as a “beacon of hope and strength.” We all experience pain, loss, frustration, challenges, but love can keep us centered. “I’ve realized that I don’t need to look for love,” she explains. “It purely exists within our world- within ourselves, others, and all living beings on this earth.”

“With deep love, I have the ability to positively embrace all the challenges, upsets, and roadblocks I continue to confront. And even when times seem too overwhelming to face, love is deeply rooted within me; a powerful source that will never leave my side. With love, I can overcome anything.”

Love can come in many forms and comes out in many types of relationships. For any relationships you find yourself in, you are the common denominator. What are you doing to show yourself love? What are you doing to harness the power of love around you?

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